With only 111 days to go until my wedding (although who’s counting?… Me!) the planning is well and truly in full swing. I’ve started to realise that the closer I get to July 14th the more I’m slowly changing from the ‘laid-back everything will turn out fine’ bride to the “OMG, IS THIS BLUSH PINK OR CHERRY BLOSSOM PINK?!?” kind of bride. It’s funny, we’ve found ourselves arguing and worrying about the strangest of things recently and contemplating why exactly we’re spending probably the most obscene amount of money we will ever spend on one single day of our lives. Our eyes have been completely open to the world of wedding fairs, seat covers, RSVP’s and table confetti these past few months and here’s a few thoughts I’ve had along the way…
Pinterest – Savior or Nemesis?
For a newly engaged bride Pinterest is a haven of ideas about bouquets, dresses, table decorations – you name it Pinterest will have it. So you make a few boards, and then another 20 a few days later, and you start to pin, and pin, and pin, and pin. Over 1000 pins later, all cross-referenced into relevant boards, the wedding you’ve always dreamed of; your ideas, inspiration, style and colour scheme all begin to change. All of a sudden you want to get married in a barn with a petting zoo, sundae bar and 10 piece orchestra in a pair of Jimmy Choos. You start to question yourself and become completely overwhelmed under a mountain of pins, totally confused and befuddled for months until, ultimately, your return to the very first ideas you originally pinned. That’s how it was for me anyway. Pinterest is an amazing wedding planning tool but try to remember the important things – your budget, your vision and most importantly, why you’re getting married.
The Dress – Finding ‘The One’
So first of all don’t panic if you don’t find ‘the one’ at the very first store you try. I wanted to have that fairytale ‘this is the one!’ moment as soon as I tried on my very first dress, in reality I tried on at least 10 before I found the one. I tried on every size, shape, style and colour available in the two shops I visited. Some covered in bling, huge meringues, mermaid, tea-length and ball gowns. My thinking was I’m only going to do this once so I might as well have some fun! Also, this is probably the most expensive piece of clothing I will ever buy and I wanted to make sure I got it 100% right. So basically what I’m trying to say is be open minded about the style of your dress, try on every size, shape and colour and ultimately – sip some champagne, dress up like a princess and have fun!
The Guest List – Trying to Keep Everyone Happy
First of all, you can’t keep everyone happy, it’s just impossible. Once you come to terms with this your stress levels will start to steadily fall I promise. If like me your having a small wedding; plus ones, extended family and family friends can make for some really uncomfortable conversations. At the end of the day it’s your wedding and, unfortunately, it’s your budget. Yes, it would be lovely to invite everybody all day but in world of £3.20 per chair seat covers & sashes, £40 a head place settings and venue packages it’s just not realistic. All you can do is keep it fair so nobody’s nose is put out of joint; only immediate family at the meal perhaps or plus ones only at night? Unfortunately, a disgruntled guest or two is inevitable but as long as your surrounded by the people you want there and feel loved and supported on your special day that’s all that matters.
I could rant about the wedding industry and etiquette all day but don’t worry I’ll leave it here for now. Next week, in Part 2, I’ll look at ways to plan a budget friendly wedding using Ebay, high street stores and DIY tutorials!